We live in an age of consent, or so we are supposed to
believe. Nothing is supposed to be done to us without our having been
consulted. That’s democracy and, in a democracy, there can’t be any such thing
as compulsory ideas – ideas which everyone has to believe. How can we consent
to an idea, if we can’t even talk about it? That raises the question of whether
there are some ideas that no one should be allowed to consent to. Ideas which
it is barbarous even to ‘have a conversation’ about: maybe democracy will only
get you so far.
One of the ironies of the alt-right’s rise is that it has
hedged everything it has done in terms of “free speech,” while using the
resources of free and lavishly paid-for speech to create a tyrannical climate
of shame and doxing and bullying. It spirals
between trolling and witch-hunting
, each reciprocally feeding from the
other. The troll punishes, and the witch-hunter trolls. It makes conversation impossible.
No one embodies this poison more than Milo Yiannopoulos. He
is fabulously gay yet also insists that he and people like him are
pathological, deviant monsters; a gay man who is also a Catholic homophobe. A
troll who is also pursuing a deadly serious political agenda. A witch-hunter
who doxes trans students and outs undocumented migrants, but who is only joking.
Someone who wants to paedo-bait trans women by talking of the need to protect
little girls in bathrooms from them, but also pungently explain the benefits of
underage sex with a Catholic priest. Someone who wants to align with the
neo-masculinist, patriarchal alt-right and then open up shock-jock-style
discussions around consent and teenage sex.
And in a very different, and differently performative,
register of contradiction, he is also someone who wants to say he wasn’t
abused, and enjoyed his adolescent sexual experiences, and then later retract
this and say that it was abuse.
We should take these contradictions seriously: many of them
are integral to his particular form of reactionary performance politics; the
latter was integral to its breakdown. There are those who claim he “doesn’t
mean” what he says; even if that were true in one sense, it doesn’t matter. Yes,
he argues in bad faith: that is integral to the performance. But whatever one
says always has a psychological meaning at least; after all, you could have
said anything else. Far from meaning nothing that he says, he means everything
that he says, one way and another.
The worst thing you can do with a reactionary provocateur is
have the conversation on their terms. Any such conversation will always be toxic.
In Yiannopoulos’s case, if you talk about trans women or gay people on his
terms, you end up circling around the idea of pathology, which leads only to
normalisation and moralism, and ultimately to violence. If you talk about the
age of consent or the complexities of adolescent sexuality on his terms, you’re
staring into the abyss of ‘paedophilia’, which is usually the point at which
people stop talking and start throwing things. Conversation breaks down because
bad faith has been insinuated into everything from the start, beginning with
everything that Milo Yiannopoulos said and the way in which he said it.
James Butler’s LRB
put it concisely and well: Yiannopoulos’s trolling “admits, though
for shock purposes, the unsettling complexity of adolescent sexuality, even as
it disdains to take seriously the need for protection
against exploitation”. He gestured to something real, but his gesturing is
unusable: to even talk about this, one has to wrestle the subject back from
him. That is why it is useless to debate him on any of these issues, or to
restrict oneself to an evaluation of his words. The next worst thing you can do,
however, is conclude that, because of that toxicity, the conversation shouldn’t
be had at all: as though that were at all possible, even if it was desirable.
The reactions to Yiannopoulos’s downfall on the Left include
a lot of justified cheering and jeering. From being feted on Bill Maher’s
programme to grovelling at a press conference, resigning from Breitbart, having
his book deal cancelled, and losing half of his allies on the alt-right, is a
precipitous and cheering fall from an elevated disgrace. The laughter is
immense. And yet, some of the reactions going beyond this, in the assumptions
they make, in their implications, and sometimes in their performative
grandstanding, are quite terrifying. There is always performance in politics,
as the alt-right knows and the left often doesn’t, but the specifics of this
kind of performance, for example in the unhinged and often spiteful sanctimony
towards those tackling the most difficult
and complex subjects
from Yiannopoulos’s claims, suggests that we’re miles
away from a culture that can hear about child abuse, let alone talk about it.
There is a palpable sense of relief that some people seem to experience at
being licensed to let go of rigour and nuance in a difficult terrain, because
of who started the argument, and slip straight into rote excoriation.
And this matters, because social media is increasingly where
we do a lot of our politics, like it or (mostly) not. We are too easily looped
into Yiannopoulos’s pathologies, too easily set on the groove of a narrow kind
of conversation that he obviously wanted, and that can only go in one
direction, toward mutual contempt and distrust. The alt-right troll is not a
defender of speech, but its saboteur.
When I wrote on the guilt
of the abused
two years ago, I described two things that happened to me. In
the first instance, of which I have no direct memory but of which there are
bureaucratic records, I was raped with a razor-sharp knife at barely three
years old. On the plus side, for some people, that experience will give me a
right to have an opinion about these matters. For others, of course, it will be
all the more reason to discount what I have to say.
In the second experience, which I do remember, when I was
fifteen a man responsible for my care invited me to have sex with him. I
remember that, in describing the second experience I adopted a slightly arch
tone, because I felt that he hadn’t done any harm. After all, while his
behaviour was hardly appropriate, and he was exploiting his position, and
putting me in a position that I shouldn’t have been in, he hadn’t forced
himself on me. I also thought that, if I’d had the desire to consent I was able
to do so, and I might even have enjoyed myself.
I am no longer entirely sure of all that; it is in question.
And even if I was still sure of it, and even if I’d had the desire to take up
this offer, and even if it had been enjoyable at the time, it doesn’t follow
that it would have been wise to do so. What if, even in retrospect, I
overestimate my own precocious bearing and insight at the time? Still, I’m
aware of people who had sex with adults as teenagers, and not only don’t feel
that they were abused, but are expressly grateful for the experience. I’m glad
that they feel able to say so. I’m glad for that matter that I was able to have
a series of conversations about my experiences, without having to defer to
someone else’s idea of what abuse might be, and without paying any attention to
It doesn’t necessarily follow from the fact that some people
had enjoyable sex with adults as teenagers, that the people they had sex with
behaved well, or that this should in general be condoned – and I will return to
this. But to insist that the people giving this testimony about themselves must
be, definitionally, wrong, to insist that they are victims
, regardless of their own stated belief, is also to say that
they are ‘bad victims’: it is a complex form of shaming dressed up as concern
What I find troubling in so many left-wing responses to the
these sorts of discussions about adolescent sexuality, consent and abuse, is
the implied idea that people like me shouldn’t think or say these things about
ourselves – that they can feign some sort of omniscience about our life
stories. Essentially, the idea is that no matter what I might say, I couldn’t
have consented, and any idea that I could have is inherently either wicked or
stupid – this is usually prefaced by a tragic shake-of-the-head about the ‘denial’
and ‘confusion’ in which some abuse victims live. What is adverted to here is
the idea of the ‘bad victim’, the one who doesn’t feel as abused as they must
if our moral standards are to be preserved.
It has even been charmingly suggested that those who take a
libertarian view on age of consent laws might be victims of childhood sexual
abuse who have become paedophiles. As I’ll momentarily indicate, my own view of
the laws is not in any straightforward sense ‘libertarian’: I think we need age
of consent laws, and am pragmatic about what that age should be. Nevertheless, it
is worth unpacking this claim in order to demonstrate that it is moral
panic-fuelled reactionary poison dressed up as intra-left critique, and thus
indicate something of the nature of this problem.
The intergenerational ‘cycle of abuse’ idea, originating in
the Sixties, became very popular in the Eighties. As it evolved from being a
crude prejudice to an object of knowledge, it came to rely on statistical data
which suggested that there was a positive correlation for a minority of people,
between the experienced of being physically or sexually abused as a child, and
going to physically or sexually assault children. The statistics vary, but in
no case that I am aware of are a majority of perpetrators made up of those who
were themselves abused. In one study
of sexual abuse,
it suggested that the correlation was weak overall, but strong in the case of
men who were sexually assaulted by women. The most recent large-scale study of
physical abuse found no
of that kind at all. One study finds the rate of
intergenerational transmission to be approximately 7 percent
, and that in
its turn is explained by the study in terms of other, mediating factors. I don’t
cite any of these studies to endorse them, but to indicate the state of
professional knowledge on this front, which is not good. And even where it
exists, correlation is not causality, and statistics aren’t a theory.
For a ‘cycle of abuse’ theory to emerge, data had to be combined
with a vulgarised version of an idea drawn from psychoanalysis, namely ‘repetition’.
This idea that ‘repeating abuse’ meant finding children of your own to abuse, was
enormously reductive, and missed the point: what is repeated is not abuse per
se, but trauma. Feminists rightly criticised the tendency encoded in this
concept to reduce child abuse to the activities of a pathologised minority,
while ignoring the gendered distribution of victims and perpetrators. For the
liberal-minded, one advantage of the idea is that it seems to resist
dehumanising perpetrators, by situating their action in an explicable context.
The problem, of course, is that it also participates in the culture of shaming
abuse survivors, of telling them that they are broken, permanently damaged, and
thus a threat to be kept an eye on. This is where victimology segues straight
into demonology: you are a victim and, because you cannot help being a victim,
you will probably become a perpetrator. Here is the ‘bad victim’ in another
guise: having been abused becomes a reason why one should be abused.
It is, perhaps, easy to cop an attitude when you’re talking
about someone as demonstratively loathsome and self-loathing, and
self-contradictory, as Yiannopoulos. But it is an attitude, and anyone
brandishing it flippantly or maliciously in order to shut people up is many
things but not, in that instant, any comrade to the survivors of child abuse.
It hardly seems worth being on the Left, if you end up sounding like a version
of Milo in your rhetorical choices. And insofar as there is an argument lurking
behind all this, it depends on a reactionary, class-blind conception of human
development – the life-cycle – which, perforce, takes no account of the
specificities of experience, of different ways in which we come to desire, and
formulate our desires, and become worldly about desire. The very messiness of
concrete situations to which Yiannopoulos gestured for his own
attention-seeking reasons, is occluded. Since it is assumed that we already
know what abuse is, who needs to listen?
The “automatic belief” in survivors of abuse thus has a
strange flipside; the automatic disbelief in those who say they aren’t survivors
of abuse. Both are a way of not taking people and their testimonies seriously.
Rather than giving a certain credence to what people say about themselves, with
all due awareness of the limitations of memory, knowledge and
self-understanding, we gainsay the question by resolving it in an absolutist
way. And it is no good to patronisingly vouchsafe the right of abuse survivors
to speak about their experiences, while insisting that others must hold their
tongues: that is another way of not taking it seriously, of ensuring that this
testimony has no effect. Either we can all
have these difficult conversations about abuse and adolescent sexuality and
consent, seriously and rigorously, or the conversation is essentially ceded to
fascists, hatemongers and provocateurs.
The polite way to put this is to say that it leads to, or
rather already is, a bad politics of abuse. But one of the dimensions of abuse
is that you don’t have any say in what happens to you; your life story is
written by someone else. When people claim a right to speak on your behalf, so that
what you say about yourself doesn’t matter, this is in its own way abusive.
One excellent reason not to discuss the age of consent on
Milo Yiannopoulos’s terms, is that if you get caught up in his tangle of
contradictions, provocations, hedged political agendas, backtracking,
self-justifications, and self-hate, what comes out will be reactionary,
moralistic poison. Trolling begets trolls. That is exactly what has happened. The
homophobic undertow of many online reactions from the right includes reference
to the old trope that gays just want to do away with age of consent laws so
that they can rape children with impunity. There is also a lurking idea,
expressed in some of the alt-right
‘defences’ of Yiannopoulos
, that homosexuality is a tragic byproduct of
abuse – a crudely homophobic version of the way in which anyone who is abused
is pathologised, as if anything they might believe or do that is disagreeable
or troubling to you must be a result of mental scarring. These are tropes that
I don’t doubt Yiannopoulos was happy to activate. His own paedo-baiting has
come back to haunt him.
Symptomatically, in defending his position, he taxed the
left with a kind of repressive moral absolutism about age of consent laws. Yiannopoulos
comes from Britain, where debates about the age of consent in recent decades
have coincided with the gay struggle for equality. The age of consent for gay
men after decriminalisation in 1967 was 21. It wasn’t until 1992, that it was
reduced to 18; and not until 2001 was it finally reduced to 16, which is now the
legal age of consent for all sexual relationships in the UK.
Throughout all of this change, the constant reactionary
refrain on the part of those who opposed it, was that changing the age of
consent laws would expose adolescent boys to predation at the hands of adult
men. Anne Widdecombe went so far as to suggest raising the age of consent for
heterosexual couples, so that there could be an equality of legal repression.
On all these fights, the Left was not invariably on the right side, but was
more likely to be so than Yiannopoulos’s erstwhile political allies.
Meanwhile, when gay activists like Peter Tatchell suggest
lowering the age of consent to 14, as it already is in some countries and as a
Home Office study has suggested it should be, in order not to criminalise the
majority of adolescents who do start to have sex at that age, he is baited
as a paedophile by the far right
. The irony of this is that Tatchell’s
argument, agree with him or not, is for empowering and educating children
regarding their sexuality. He even suggested having graduated consent laws, so
that the ability to consent would be partly contingent on the age of the older
partner – similar to the close-in-age sliding scale that exists in Canadian law.
Again, agree or not, this is a nuanced position that is clearly aimed at helping
young people. It is the desire, hardly limited to fascists, to preserve the
idea of an innocent, pre-sexual personhood, of childhood as a realm untroubled
by sexuality, that protects sexually exploitative patriarchy and deprives
children of the knowledge they need to defend themselves.
If the discussion about the age of consent is had on the
terms set by Yiannopoulous, it won’t be anything to do with preventing child
sexual abuse. It will be a mirror of alt-right-style snark predicated on the
intrinsic bad faith of any such discussion, hinting that anyone who thinks this
is a debate worth having must be either a paedophile or an apologist. It will
be people strutting about and attempting to intimidate others into not saying
things they can’t bear to hear. And indeed, that is exactly what is happening,
on the social media Left.
Laws are pragmatic, not perfect. Even in the best cases, they
define a bandwidth of acceptable behaviour, which necessarily includes some
harmful behaviour, while also prohibiting a lot of harmless behaviour. You
can’t legislate for exceptions, because legislation is all about the rule, the
average, the norm. Any age of consent law is not about eradicating harm, but
limiting it. We need age of consent laws, not because consent is simple, but
because it is messy: it is always to some degree constrained and structured by
power. The difference between children and adults in terms of social power,
resources and sophistication is qualitatively great enough that at some point the
law has to say, no sexual relationship can be allowed. This always be
negotiated imperfection, there will always be exceptional situations, and the
law will always do some harm both to those it does protect, and to those it
fails to protect. If there’s a case for reducing the age of consent, therefore,
it doesn’t have anything to do with the fact that some people say that they
were able to consent to sex with an adult when they were pubescent. Even
Yiannopoulos, in full fascist enfant
mode, didn’t try to claim otherwise.
Like any law, however, age of consent laws are materialised
in police action. What effect they really have depends in part on how police
choose to enforce them. That in turn depends on the political and moral culture
that police officers partake of. The very fact that there are children being
arrested and cautioned for having sex, or being charged on child pornography
offences merely for sending
another semi-naked photographs
indicates what some of that culture is like. The fact that people are actually reporting
children to police
, and that police are keeping intelligence databases
children who sext, and threatening them with the sex
, is another indication.
This is where the ideological presumption of childhood
innocence – a presumption which is all the more effective since everyone knows
it is bullshit – feeds into the institutions of the state, and is embodied in
violence. And it is violence directed, not mainly against ‘paedophiles’, but against
children who are experimenting with their sexuality, as they always will. The
potential problems with sexting – abuse, online humiliation, shaming, bullying
– are cited as reasons to surveille and punish sexting among children. When we
talk about childhood sexuality, we only tend to talk about the problems and
dangers, in a manner that implies that the chimera of a danger-free sexuality could be a reality.
We don’t talk about how exciting it is for them to discover their own sexuality
because, when it comes to childhood sexuality, we want to know nothing about it.
We want innocence: ours, as the precondition for theirs; or theirs, as the
precondition for ours.
The presumption of innocence also doubles up as a
presumption of guilt. Eighteen-year-old Kaitlyn
was engaged in a long-term relationship with her fourteen-year-old
girlfriend, when her girlfriend’s parents complained to police, and she was
charged with felony child abuse. The girlfriend adamantly denied being in any
way a victim, and was no part of the prosecution – though, of course, her say
had no weight as she was a child. Hunt’s parents, launching a campaign to free
her, argued with some plausibility that the prosecution driven by an anti-gay witch-hunt
was seventeen when he had sex with a fifteen-year-old girl. Wilson
was black, and his sexual partner was white. When video-tape emerged of the
pair engaging in consensual sex, along with others, Wilson was arrested by
Georgia cops. A number of his friends were also arrested, and plea-bargained.
Wilson rightly did not accept that he was a child molester, and so went to
trial. He was found guilty of aggravated child molestation by a Georgia jury, given
a mandatory ten year sentence and put on the sex offender’s register. The
fifteen-year-old, of course, had no say in this.
It is worth remarking that there are many countries in which
this kind of sexual relationship would simply never have been treated as a
crime. In most European and Latin American countries, the age of consent is
either fifteen or fourteen. In Argentina, Japan and South Korea, it is
thirteen. If this case had come up in France, Greece, Italy, Germany, Sweden,
Denmark, Iceland, Poland, Romania, Austria, Colombia, China, or the Czech
Republic, it would not have been tried. It is doubtful whether the police would
even have been called. The necessary imperfection of the law is also
necessarily shaped by history, culture and political struggle – in this case,
the history of Jim Crow and America’s unique culture of sex panics.
When sexual moralism is weaponised by the legal system, its
effects long outlast its action. Wilson, though he succeeded in clearing his
name, believes, without having ever spoken to her about it, that he ‘harmed
the girl he had sex with. Guilt is a terrible adhesive; it sticks to you even
when it doesn’t belong to you.
There’s always a sense in which protection becomes persecution.
Whoever is protected cedes a certain amount of power and autonomy. What is
usually being protected in this case, though, is an idea of white childhood,
linked to heteronormative family values. Kaitlyn Hunt and Genarlow Wilson – and
their respective, necessarily silent, partners – are the living proof of the
power of this. This is part of the reason why the discourse of protection has
been slowly losing support among social workers and other child service professionals.
Another reason is that, by refusing to listen to children,
which is what it does, and by assuming that they are spoken for by credible
authorities (their parents, police, teachers), ‘protection’ overlooks the ways
in which children often have strategies for defending themselves against
predation, and for experimenting with their own sexuality. It leads to anti-abuse
approaches which, rather than giving children knowledge to improve their
self-defence and enjoy their sexuality, encourage children to defer to and
trust adults as their protectors, or to defer to the authorities. This leads to
overzealous surveillance and control on the part of parents and authorities,
since the entire burden is on them to stop abuse. Consider the case of schools banning
the photography of children by their parents
, say at sporting events – the idea
that a someone might get a hold of one of these pictures and be aroused by it,
had to be pre-emptively crushed. And since the children who are most vulnerable
to being abused are least likely to have good relations with adults or to have
good access to the state, it also increases the likelihood of their being
Fundamentally, however, the discourse of protection centres
on the scapegoat. Child abuse is, in this view, something perpetrated not by average
adults but by strange, exotic creatures called ‘paedophiles’ from whom children
have to be protected. In all of the “Milo is a paedo” exultation, I am struck
by the universal tendency to focus on the name for an orientation (paedophilia)
and not for an action (rape). I doubt that there is a necessary overlap between
the two. In fact, I would suggest that the majority of adults who rape children
are not consumed by paedophilic desires, and are completely capable of having
adult sexual relationships, and indeed do so – in some cases before procreating
the children that they go on to rape. There are paedophiles and hebephiles, and
many of them rape children; but the statistics suggest that quite a lot of
other people do too.
This is enough to make one wonder what it is that the
ubiquitous figure of the ‘paedophile’ might be doing for us. Although long
surpassed in the professional literature, it continues to haunt the popular
imagination. Might it, much like the resurfacing figure of ‘ritual abuse’
wherein Satanists are supposedly doing unbelievably and elaborately vile things
to children, be performing some important ideological work? It’s as if we can
only deal with this subject by means of either demonology or pathology: it’s
either evil, or mental illness that does it. In its favour, this figure at
least allows us to talk and think about these issues, albeit often in the tacitly
prurient way that Brass Eye satirised with its Paedogeddon
But of course, it’s also a way of not
talking and thinking about certain things. Whatever questions
you might have about your own sexuality, whatever discomforts you about it,
matters a lot less when there are paedophiles to worry about. And whatever evil
or violence you think resides in you can always be projected onto someone else,
real or imaginary. You take whatever it is that you can’t deal with about
yourself, put it on the other side of the fence, and close the gate: shouting
‘paedo’ as you do. All the performative peacocking and spite I referred to
earlier is, in a way, a plea of innocence. There are a lot of things that are
being protected by the discourse of protection.
This is not rocket science: it is the most obvious thing in
the world when people do it. And yet, people do it as if it won’t be noticed that
this is what they are doing. As if we all tacitly agree not to notice; as if
moral panic is a contract of mutual ignorance.
To some extent, it is necessary to talk about Milo
Yiannopoulos in order not to talk about him. We have to push him over into the
margins in order to free up space for the kind of conversation we need. Having
done that, we are bound to still find plenty of other obstacles to talking: the big guns are always on the side of silence.
It’s part of my unconscious hero myth that I never have to
duck a difficult argument. The age of social media demolishes this kind of
intellectual pride. It reminds you that writing is a social activity, and that
to write convincingly is to have a public that can be convinced; to speak
fluently is to have a culture that can hear what you have to say. But I am,
like almost everyone else, powerfully drawn to this performative online ranting
that I describe: in particular, the drive to respond to it with bitterly
caustic ranting of my own is almost overpowering. And I can only resist the
temptation to retort to online claques of belligerent moralists and bullies
with an open invitation to come at me
if I promise myself to write on my own terms, in my own time. Writing is an
antidote to testosterone-fuelled social media addiction.
There are, though, more urgent reasons to write on this
subject. Part of the ongoing legacy of abuse is that it leaves you with a series
of existential questions, not least of which is: ‘why?’. Childhood is, among
other things, a research project. You are always asking big questions, about
sexuality (“where do babies come from?”), sex (“am I a boy or a girl?”), and
desire (what others want from you and for you, and what you want yourself).
What does abuse do to the way in which you answer those questions? What does it
do the way in which you answer those questions if you begin to think
that you might have been abused?
What does it do, if you’re routinely told
that you were abused by parents or judges or teachers or cops that you were
abused, even if you don’t think you were? What does it do, if you come to think
that a lot of what is normal today might one day look
like abuse – and thus, by virtue of how it is culturally
recognised as such, be experienced in that way, be actually (more) harmful as a
What does it do, if there is no
way to articulate these questions, to speak about them, because discussing it
is surrounded by so many invested taboos?
Whether or not we have been abused, we are all survivors of
our own history in one way or another. And we all have questions about that,
and we are all also the only people who can answer those questions – though not
in isolation, and not with any surety of finding the right answer. Adults who
know that they were abused are often left with questions like, “is that what I
wanted?”, “did I deserve it?”, “did I actually enjoy it, and does that make me
evil?” and so on. It is rather important that these questions are allowed to be
heard, without anyone else pretending to know the answers. The culture that is
so unreflexively, nihilistically invested in competitive self-righteousness and
moral simplicity – the culture that feeds both troll and witch-hunter – can’t
possibly hear them.
Purely by accident, I posted a satirical linkbait article
to my Facebook feed, claiming that vegetarians are unhealthy and 'mentally disturbed'. (Obviously, my unconscious thought it was an important subject that I should raise). In the ensuing cackles, and amid the odd groan and some very angry responses, there emerged an interesting argument, not so much about vegetarianism as about the way in which this sort of joke works, starting with the (correct) assumption that jokes are never 'just' jokes, and that they usually define a group who is included, as opposed to those who are being made fun of. The political valences of this are worth arguing about, so I thought I'd post a few thoughts here.
If you read the linked piece, it seems to me that there is a sense in which the author of the piece might feel a certain moral inferiority in relation to vegetarians and vegans, against which the joke is a defence. There is also a sense in which, though the allegation that vegetarians are 'mad' is not meant literally, it does have a psychological meaning. Maybe there's a lingering idea that people who do things differently are mad, and maybe there's a stereotype (founded in some degree of reality) that vegetarians are fanatical about their subject, such that it monopolises all the attention and conversation whenever they're around. And yet, the joke also depends on the understanding that vegetarians are not really 'mad' -- although the sub-header, 'I knew it,' shows that it's a belief that the author would really passionately like to entertain. There may also be a sense of melancholia in the joke, centred on a feeling of helplessness, both in the face of a problem seemingly too huge to solve and yet consequential, and in the face of one's own consumption habits -- one's addictions. This would indicate that there's another belief the author would passionately like to entertain, which is that we could somehow stop the organised industrial cruelty toward animals by willing it.
This is just an elaborate way of illustrating the claim that the joke is a compromise formation, negotiating between different levels of knowledge, belief and desire. I suspect that many of the jokes which target leftists or activists of various kinds, people who are seemingly able to confront problems that most people feel intimidated by, are organised like this. Even the stale old 'Monty Python' jokes about the sectarian left have a whiff of repressed desire, and sadness.
And what I'm suggesting is that, rather than be dominated by indignation or irritation regarding this kind of reactionary humour (and most humour, let's face it, does tend
in reactionary directions), we could tactically respond to them 'as if' they were in fact something else. As if they were acknowledgements of our concerns, a tacit admission of the power of our argument, an expression of the ambivalence that they arouse (since the changes we propose sometimes threaten the tiny little pittances of enjoyment that people get in life), an opportunity to open up the conversation, and unravel the guilt and intimidation surrounding it, and a way to make an emotional connection with people's ambivalence. The point is not so much to pander, to find funny things which one doesn't, but to move things on beyond the deadlock of indignation.
That is to say, while not every tiresome Richard Littlejohn jibe needs to be taken at that level, there are times at which a reactionary joke can be an opportunity, a way to engage with the deflected, or repressed desire coded in it.
It is heart-breaking to live in the era of the Huffington Post "fact check" on Milo Yiannopoulos. I understand that the US media, having already elevated Trump to power (before vaingloriously styling itself as "the resistance"), has made it necessary to take this dim-witted sociopath seriously. At least until he achieves his goal of becoming the Caesar Flickerman to Trump's charity-shop Snow.
But, as with Trump, Bannon, Spicer, Conway, Miller, and the whole gruesome lot of them, a fact-check is increasingly beside the point. The point of their use of language is to exercise power. It is conative, not constative. To say, "trans people have a psychiatric disorder" is not a descriptive statement, a truth-claim, but a speech-act. It is an incendiary device thrown into the conversation to send fists flying, at trans people mostly. It may be necessary, as part of any retort, to clarify the 'facts', whatever they may be. But, much as the Daily Show
'destroying' Yiannopoulos would only arouse a piteous sigh, it is plainly inadequate. And it is worth thinking about what predicates could make it seem adequate.
The problem is, in part, that operating liberal political theories about 'speech' -- the theories that, whether we 'believe' them are not, tend to be the ones that predominantly guide people's actions and responses -- are centuries behind the state of knowledge about how language works. It is still assumed that language is basically a neutral conduit, transferring meaning from one to the other, rather than something which is done to you
. Meaning itself is treated as something contained in the language, which we may decide to unpack and digest, rather than as a form of intending, something which acts on us, by means of the very materiality of language and what it activates in us. If language does things to us, if we find that disagreeing is somehow just not adequate as a response, if it makes us want to throw a punch, or a brick, it must be because we're triggered snowflakes who can't deal with the argument.
The advantage that fascists have on this terrain is that they do not behave as though they are having a conversation. They are aware that they are throwing verbal bricks, and that in good time, in circumstances of their choosing, they'll throw literal bricks or bullets. In the meantime, they are taking advantage of the protocols of mainstream media communication to amplify their voice without in any serious way engaging with their opponents. The Trump administration's apologists and spokespeople are not necessarily the best examples of this, because they are undisciplined and incompetent. There are fascists among them, but there is little fascist organisation. Marine Le Pen and her Front national are a better guide. They eschew print journalism, and their security agents beat up journalists, because the final edit is always controlled by someone else. But they take every advantage of broadcast media, especially live media. Then, rather than conversing with their interlocutors, proceed calmly bulldoze over every discursive object put in their path.
During the famous Remembrance Sunday interview, Le Pen manhandled her host, Andrew Marr, because she knew she wasn't having a conversation with him. Le Pen would regard Marr and his ilk as of the enemy camp, people to work around, not dialogue with. Her job was to use her voice, expression and physical bearing to embody her passion for what she was saying, to sidestep obvious traps, and to convey the points as memorably as possible. When Le Pen says "anglo-Saxons are waking up," this is not a descriptive statement with which one can have a debate, or fact-check. One may as well fact-check an advertisement. It is a performative statement, which identifies a friend/enemy distinction. Le Pen was there to interpellate her audience, to hail some, seduce waverers and symbolically crush the rest. That's what she did.
Now, I don't need to be reminded that Marr is about as heavyweight as a windsock. Maybe another interviewer would have known what he was talking about, or been more concerned with fascism than the potential threat to "Western security" or European institutions. And it's true that the format of such programmes is geared toward getting the candidates to speak about their views, so that you can't argue too much, or be too confrontational: if the fascist raises her voice and starts aggressively steamrolling over everything you say, you can't rejoin in kind. Another format might conceivably be more conducive to 'exposing' fascism. But the basic idea that 'exposing' fascists is bad for them, that 'exposure' is something that they want to avoid, depends on the totally erroneous idea that they are there to free associate about their ideas, to converse, to logically defend various truth claims. If they were worried about being 'exposed' in that way, they wouldn't come on your television show, or go out of their way to court publicity. The 'fact check', and the oh-so-witty 'annihilation', ultimately depends on the same logic.
Opposition, not exposition, is the priority. I am not advocating tactical narrowness. There may be circumstances in which it makes sense to 'debate' a fascist. There may be circumstances in which not debating them would be the worst option. But there is no conversation
to be had here, and the taunt that slimy alt-right trolls offer, that their opponents will not debate them, is part of the troll.
“I had forgot myself; am I not king?” – Shakespeare, Richard II
There are some things (or somethings) that matter more than
happiness. Forgetting oneself is one of them.
To remember that one is king – as
in, His Majesty the Baby, the primary narcissistic representation at the very
start of life – is also to be constantly apprised that one is living under a
tyranny, even if it is one’s own.
To value oneself too highly is to live under
a one-person dictatorship, with an underground torture chamber for the
dissenting remainder. There is death in this. The death-drive, on the other
hand, is a regicide plot: and, to that extent, is on the side of living.
It is an irony that when we disappear from the picture, when
the self seems to die for a moment, that is when we feel most alive. When we
play, as children, we get to forget who we are for a while. Once we are assumed
to be adults, we have to find acceptable substitutes for childhood play – the
thrilling abandonment of oneself through love, sex, creativity, adventure, or
even just the joy of surrendering to a novel and cancelling everything else.
It is a cliché of certain ‘self-help’ literature that we
should learn to forget ourselves more often, although they don’t exactly put it
like this. Winnifred Gallagher recommends a state of being ‘rapt’, a ‘focused
life’ for the sake of thriving. Cal Newport extols ‘deep work’, the state of
disappearing into serious work for long periods, detaching from the distracting
‘shallow work’ of answering email and managing social media, in order to be
more productive. Usually, this literature has buried in it the idea that you
will be happier if you pursue this course. The promise of self-help literature
seems to be inherently geared toward the happy-ever-after: self-help books are stories of secular redemption.
Whether or not this has anything to do with happiness seems
almost to be beside the point. Indeed, that might precisely be its status: it
is adjacent to the purpose, potentially a contiguous by-product, not the goal
itself. If we live as though happiness is the goal, we’ll have a greatly
impoverished life, forgetting everything else that we live for, including
unhappiness. Indeed, having happiness as a goal might be a source of
depression. But even if the proposed solution of self-help does make us happy,
or at least not unhappy – a self-made anti-depressant, one weird trick, a
life-hack – it still isn’t obvious what it is about being absorbed, wrapped up
in some great work, going deep, that is so satisfying.
To answer that you get a chance to forget yourself only
invites the question, what’s so good about that?
"By walking, you escape from the very idea of identity,
the temptation to be someone, to have a name and a history. Being someone is
all very well for smart parties where everyone is telling their story, it's all
very well for psychologists' consulting rooms. But isn't being someone also a
social obligation which trails in its wake - for one has to be faithful to the
self-portrait - a stupid and burdensome fiction? The freedom in walking lies in
not being anyone; for the walking body has no history, it is just an eddy in the
stream of immemorial life." -- Frederic Gros, A Philosophy of Walking
, Verso, 2016, pp. 6-7.
The term ‘rambling’ partly derives from the Middle Dutch
word, ‘rammelen’, referring to the night-time meanderings of animals on heat.
It later became a metaphor for incoherent, wandering, nocturnal speech or
writing. As if the thoughts were just wandering around looking for others to
bump into, and copulate with. The coherence of the self that we present to
others precludes such amorous digression, such free association, in normal
conversations. We usually have to go to analysis, where it is the rule to fall
apart, to have these sorts of excursions.
To ramble now is to walk aimlessly, not so much to copulate
as to see what in ourselves we might bump into: to encounter our thoughts like
strangers. Writing and walking are connected by a language, and an experience. We
set out, initially wary, leaving behind a certain comfort, focused on how
unpromising the terrain is and how long there is to go. As we get deeper, and
the blood warms up, and thoughts start moving, we start to get an obscure
satisfaction. If you’ve done it many times, you’ll recognise this as the early
echo of a kind of mild euphoria that you will encounter mid-way through, just
after you’ve snacked, when you happen upon something that surprises you with
its simple beauty. By this point, you’ve gone so deep that you’ve forgotten the
comfort you left behind.
Comfort, it turns out, was nothing other than habit. One of
the worst things you can do to something that is truly, ravishingly sublime is
to make it into a cliché. That is to destroy it or, more precisely, to destroy
your pleasure in it. The creature of habit, who builds a life around a
ritualisation of what was once sublime and is now clichéd, is engaged in an
unconscious war against pleasure. And the self is nothing other than the
organisation of certain habits, “the etcetera of the subject,” as Lacan once
put it. By their repetitions shall you know them. Walking and writing, at best,
are two ways of digressing from habit, hopefully on heat. We trace out, through
the marks we make, not patterns of habit, but routes of desire and its
Solitude is essential to both. Hunger amid plenty ruins the
pleasure in moderation; loneliness amid many ruins the pleasure in solitude.
Deprivation makes you want more than you can take pleasure in. But get far
enough out of the way, and you begin to recalibrate your sense of plenty. There
is something paradoxical about this. For many people, one of the worst things
that can happen is that they might be left alone with their thoughts. Any
displacement activity, from a worry to a row, is better. A distracted life,
overcrowded with stress and hyper-business, is their way of forgetting. But
whatever it is they’re forgetting, it isn’t the self: the self is always there
as the official business representative.
The capacity for solitude, Winnicott observed, is a sort of
power. A child who is never left alone, never finds out about her personal
life, or what she might do with independence. Without solitude, she never
develops the power not to respond to stimulation, to withhold or delay a
response according to her preferences. She never gets the opportunity to
cultivate fantasy. And she never finds out that – as Anthony Storr suggested,
using the analogy of prayer and mystic states – isolation can be reparative, even
a source of revealed truth.
This implies that self is something we need to be occasionally
alienated from, in order to think and be creative: as if the observing ego was
a kind of terrifyingly efficient system of surveillance and preventive
censorship. Logically enough, nowhere is this self more mandatory, and yet more
fragile, fragmented and transient, than in that peculiar form of writing we
call social media.
“The model of ownership, in a society organized round mass
consumption, is addiction.” – Christopher Lasch, The Culture of Narcissism
Everything we do on Facebook and Twitter is about, in part,
cultivating, tending and refreshing daily, a self-portrait that we can take
pleasure in. Far from escaping from the self, we would be horrified to find
ourselves digressing too much on these platforms: too many people are watching.
It’s easy to criticise online narcissism, but that is not
the problem, as such. However, the kind of narcissism that is encouraged by the
ecology of likes, shares, retweets and so on, is the fragile narcissism of the mirror
. You find out what you’re like by constantly evaluating the coded and
quantified reactions of others.
This form of narcissism was anatomised by Christopher Lasch
back in the anti-radical reflux of the Seventies. Lasch was interested in the
individualist, consumerist solutions that ex-radicals found to their
existential anguish. Building on tendencies already present in counterculture,
they individualised and medicalised their problems, looking to est, gestalt, hypnotism,
tai chi, and health food, much as your average post-millennium hippy looks to The Secret
Losing interest in political change, they retreated to the
self, just as – so Lasch thought – the traditional bourgeois self was being
hammered. The self of mass consumption, (and what are the hippy solutions but
variants of ‘one weird trick’ snake oil?), was necessarily ever more fragmented
and ever more frail.
This had to do with the experience of being a consumer. Capitalism
produces the demand for an object. The demand appears to have something to do
with desire, but the two operate at a different level: desire is always more
elusive and strange than the formal demand to which it is tied. You might say “I’m
hungry” when in fact you’re unloved. So, the object is usually advertised in
such a way as to make totally irrelevant links between object and satisfaction
through fantasy: so that it is offered as a solution to problems it can’t
possibly solve. It is never the object we were looking for
, and it can never
satisfy us for long. The perception of time therefore contracts: there is only
this moment, then the next; this satisfaction, then the next.
Since capitalism says your desire need never be frustrated
as long as you have at least a little money, because there is a limitless
choice of things even at the bottom of the market, you can be constantly
satisfied for extremely short bursts of time. The form of narcissism that began
to take root in the Seventies, according to Lasch, was structured by this
transience. The ex-radicals imagined that, in their political retreat, they had
found a source of wised-up resilience. But their cynicism had in fact deprived
them of any project by which they could have any real engagement with the world
or hope to change it. Instead, engendered in a war of all against all by
capitalism, they became far more dependent on the approbation of peers and
authorities, and far more invested in their reflection in the media – the short
burst of satisfaction even here was recognised in the idea of fifteen minutes
of fame – and in grandiose fantasies of omnipotence. By a strange dialectic,
the supposedly weakened self had become more imperative, better at monopolising
all the attention, all the energy.
Social media operates on a similar logic. You can, with a
small investment of labour, 140 well-chosen characters, generate a predictable
flow of satisfactions for a period of time. The exchange is that in so doing,
you produce content that will attract eyeball attention for advertisers, who
comprise 85 per cent of Twitter revenue. Rather than being paid to write, as
you would be if your content was published in traditional media formats, you
are offered gratifications of the self.
Of course, the difference between the satisfactions offered
by most firms, and the ones you negotiate on social media, is that rather than
endlessly flattering you, the latter very often turns into what The Thick of It
called ‘the shit room’.
Far from being validated, you are execrated. This is something that Twitter
CEOs are worried about, although I’m not sure they need to: up to a certain
point, it probably feeds the addiction.
“The Great Work Begins.” – Tony Kushner, Angels in America
You create a carefully curated self in the form of an online
avatar, with its regularly updated photographs and bio lines, and feed it as
regularly as possible: and you get your hits. This might be why so-called ‘identity
politics’ has taken on new valences on social media. Often, anti-‘identity
politics’ is a kind of straw-manning, a way of belittling anti-racist and anti-sexist
struggle as forms of particularism. This is obviously true of the alt-right, and
there is a crude ‘alt-left’ whose economism tends in this direction. But
supposing ‘identity politics’ came to mean, not political identifications around
specific forms of oppression and the lived experience thereof, but a politics
of the self and its munification?
Only in this context could alt-right taunting about ‘virtue-signalling’
have any meaning – and even then, of course, it would be entirely hypocritical.
It is never going to be straightforward to work out how much this is a real
tendency, in part because there is a performative dimension to any form of
political speech. And self-aggrandisement has many ruses: violent self-hate can
be a particularly obnoxious form of self-love; self-punishment can be
self-fortification. Nonetheless, it seems obvious that whatever your social
media politics, it is all harnessed to roughly the same sets of dynamics,
within the same profit model. To deny that this has effects which we cannot
simply opt out of, would indeed be to retreat into grandiose fantasies of
Above all, social media engages the self as a permanent and
ongoing response to stimuli. One is never really able to withhold or delay a
response; everything has to happen in this timeline right now, before it is
forgotten. To inhabit social media is to be in a state of permanent
distractedness, permanent junky fixation on keeping in touch with it, knowing
where it is, and how to get it. But it is also to loop the observing ego into
an elaborate panopticon
so that self-surveillance is redoubled many times over.
The politics of forgetting oneself would be a form of ‘anti-identity’
politics. It would be a politics of resistance to trends which force one to spend
too much time on the self (which, in fact, would include not just the
monopolisation of one’s attention by social media, but far more saliently all
the forms of racism, sexism, homophobia and other kinds of ascriptive oppression
exhaustive work to redefine
the self). It would begin with deliberately cultivating solitude and forgetting.
It would acknowledge that all labour spent on the self is potentially
displacement activity, wasted energy. And that, with that effort conserved, some
sort of great work could be done.